Why am I still single ladies? Up until 6 years ago, this was my sad mantra. I watched my girlfriends all get married and some then started families and I was still alone and wondering if I was ever going to get married at all. So for all the ladies, single and wondering the same thing, I empathize with your unwanted singleness. But don’t despair. Being single is not the end of the world, and you can utilize this time in your life as a growing period and start to do some soul searching. As you look introspectively, an inner peace and confidence will gird you and prepare you for the right time when you meet your Mr. Right.
Confidence is sexy. Men love a ladies single who knows what she wants and has self-assurance. Having a great self-confidence frees you up to let your true colors shine through. You are a beautiful person inside and out and you just need to muster up the confidence that you are awesome and deserve to find your soul mate. Don’t confuse this confidence with arrogance because that quality is definitely not attractive. There is a big difference.
You need to have good emotional and physical health and well being to be confident. Loving yourself is key. You are valuable and deserving of a wonderful relationship with a great guy. You do not need to walk around with a better than thou type of attitude, but just quiet self-assurance. Try to combine that with a healthy outlook on life and keep more towards the optimistic side rather than being a pessimist. A good attitude is contagious and will catch the eye of Mr. Right quicker than an Eyeore’s personality; you know, Winnie the Pooh’s friend who always found the dark cloud in every sunny sky.
If you are a professional single woman and have achieved great success, try to tone down that strong personality in the dating world. Men still like the old-fashioned way of winning the respect of women and they enjoy taking care of them. Once you go on the first date, don’t get upset if the Cinderella story didn’t happen by the end of the night. True love takes work and it’s only a first date; you’re still trying to get to know each other.
Maybe you’ve been looking for Mr. perfect and I’m sorry to say, but he does not exist. You should have high standards, but nothing that rests up in the clouds. Come back down to earth and realize that you are not perfect and neither is the guy you’d like to date. We are all human after all with imperfections. On the other hand, don’t settle for less than perfect just because you’re tired of being single and lonely. You’re only doing an injustice to both of you by staying in a relationship with a guy that you just settled for. If there’s no spark, don’t stay in the relationship.
Are you still single ladies? because you’ve been setting your sights on an unattainable man? If you’re behavior has been bordering on stalking and he’s about to get a restraining order, rethink your situation and back off. If he’s not interested, don’t waste your valuable time. Channel your energy into finding the right guy who is interested and will value you for the awesome woman that you are.
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Ladies Single - Ladies it Okay for Single Moms to Date?
Are you a single mom? Do you wonder if it’s okay for you to go out and date and have fun? Contrary to what you single ladies that are moms have heard, it is a great idea for you to date. As a single mom, you work hard and put all of your efforts into taking care of your children, while most of the time neglecting your own needs. You are to be commended for putting your children first, but you need to indulge in some “me time” as well.
Ladies, being single and having the responsibility of caring for a child can be taxing. If you have a desire to get back into the dating scene, go for it, but before you do, take some time to evaluate your goals. Your situation is a little bit different from other single ladies without children because you do have to consider their place in your world. But don’t let that stop you, just let it be a priority in your decision-making processes.
Assess your current life situation and establish immediate, short-term and long-term goals that include your children as a number one priority. You need to figure out what you are hoping to gain from getting involved in the dating scene again. Do you want to find a long-term commitment or are you just looking for companionship or a casual romance? Finding the answer to these questions is key to establishing your goals. Once you ascertain your goals, you need to decide what you are looking for in a man.
You’ve already been through one relationship with your child’s father. Are you ready for another one? The benefit you have is that you’ve experienced what a bad relationship is like (unless of course, your child’s father passed away and you did have a great relationship and now you find yourself single) and you want to move forward to maintaining a good one. Make a list of the things that caused friction between you and your previous partner? Have you changed your ways from prior faults? Has your character developed? Hopefully, through the passage of time, you have matured as we all expect to do.
Take stock of how your child or children will feel if you start dating. Are they old enough to understand the situation? Always keep them in mind as you move forward in your pursuit of new love. Children are affected by their parents and watch everything adults say and do, even when we think they are not noticing our actions. We need to practice what we preach and how we hope they will act in their own lives, we need to act out in ours first; they model our behavior.
You then need to decide how you are going to meet Mr. Right. Are you going to go the route of Internet dating? Will you leave your meeting up to destiny? Have you thought of utilizing the services of a professional matchmaker? Whichever route you chose; just remember that your children are involved in every decision you make. What you do affects them. Try to make every decision count for their best interests. Always keep your safety and that of your children in mind; keep your goals and lists in the forefront and have fun. Mr. Right is probably right around the corner!
Ladies, being single and having the responsibility of caring for a child can be taxing. If you have a desire to get back into the dating scene, go for it, but before you do, take some time to evaluate your goals. Your situation is a little bit different from other single ladies without children because you do have to consider their place in your world. But don’t let that stop you, just let it be a priority in your decision-making processes.
Assess your current life situation and establish immediate, short-term and long-term goals that include your children as a number one priority. You need to figure out what you are hoping to gain from getting involved in the dating scene again. Do you want to find a long-term commitment or are you just looking for companionship or a casual romance? Finding the answer to these questions is key to establishing your goals. Once you ascertain your goals, you need to decide what you are looking for in a man.
You’ve already been through one relationship with your child’s father. Are you ready for another one? The benefit you have is that you’ve experienced what a bad relationship is like (unless of course, your child’s father passed away and you did have a great relationship and now you find yourself single) and you want to move forward to maintaining a good one. Make a list of the things that caused friction between you and your previous partner? Have you changed your ways from prior faults? Has your character developed? Hopefully, through the passage of time, you have matured as we all expect to do.
Take stock of how your child or children will feel if you start dating. Are they old enough to understand the situation? Always keep them in mind as you move forward in your pursuit of new love. Children are affected by their parents and watch everything adults say and do, even when we think they are not noticing our actions. We need to practice what we preach and how we hope they will act in their own lives, we need to act out in ours first; they model our behavior.
You then need to decide how you are going to meet Mr. Right. Are you going to go the route of Internet dating? Will you leave your meeting up to destiny? Have you thought of utilizing the services of a professional matchmaker? Whichever route you chose; just remember that your children are involved in every decision you make. What you do affects them. Try to make every decision count for their best interests. Always keep your safety and that of your children in mind; keep your goals and lists in the forefront and have fun. Mr. Right is probably right around the corner!
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